Here’s a parallel or co-parenting situation:
My kids are 10 and 12, their dad (my ex) has them every other weekend for visitation. Should I continue to pack clothes for them or should their dad buy clothes for them to keep at his house?
Oh, I am familiar with this topic! With a month-long summer visitation on the horizon, clothing is always a hot topic.
Of course, when it comes to shared parenting/co-parenting/parallel parenting (whichever version you and your ex are doing), we should strive to have great, amicable relationships with our exes but we know that is not always possible.
There are many different thoughts and things to consider when deciding whether to continue to pack the kids clothing to take to their dad’s house. Let’s explore a few.
Situation #1 – The child should have clothes at both parents’ homes
This solution could be easier and comfortable for the child to have clothing in both homes so that they don’t have to keep a tally of what they have at mom’s house versus at dad’s house. Children should feel at home in both parent’s home. This is one less choice they have to deal with.
Situation #2 – Does the noncustodial parent wash and care for the child’s clothes?
Situation #3 – Does the custodial parent send clothes that fit the child?
Situation #4 – Should bio mom use the child support money to buy clothing to keep at dad’s house?
When you weigh in, be careful to not make your tween self-conscious or project the image that the other parent’s clothing choices are inappropriate. Children should never be caught in the middle of their parents’ issue, let alone style choices!
Instead of going back and forth on who buys what, what should blended families concentrate on?
Within this series, I share my own parenting with an ex experiences as well as those of unRehearsed readers. Topics include visitation, communication and the emotional well-being of both mom and child(ren).