I have super powers.
Not just the regular, normal mom super powers.
I shape shift when necessary.
Necessary moments include when, in unfamiliar territory, Tween Girl flutters off and begins to chat it up with a group of girls she’s never met before. This, of course, leaves me to push myself to start conversations with moms that I’ve never met before or even those I am already familiar with.
You see, I am an introverted mom raising an extroverted tween.
I am a rare breed of introverts. I have extrovert tendencies. I can come across as a social butterfly, all the while in my head I am screaming to be left alone. I enjoy being around people, just for certain lengths of time. I thrive in quiet time, it’s my energy source.
I am raising a tween girl who feeds off of constant interaction, it recharges her.
She’s drained when she’s unable to interact and socialize.
Introverted moms are thankful for school months because they provide some much needed balance. There’s so much going on during the school year, which provides much needed energy sources for the extroverted tween to feed from. And by the time the day is over, mom is winning because bedtime is only a couple of hours away.
Now, of course, this will all change as your tween gets older. But hey, it works for now.
Summers, though, pose a different type of threat.
Summers are made up of no schedules, no routines. Those are both things many introverts thrive on, while extroverts are in heaven!
Introverts are perfectly fine with sitting by the pool, it’s not necessary to actually get in it.
Unless, of course, you have a tween that’s pulling your legs until you slip and fall into the pool.
Introverted moms and extroverted tweens should have the best possible summer with ways for them to stay connected without being locked into a summer contract.
Need some summer dates that cater to your introverted ways and her extroverted personality?
Do you have a pool in your neighborhood or your back yard? Regardless of where it’s located, spend time there. Most tweens love to swim or just play around in the pool, it’s a great way to get a bit of exercise in their day.
Hopefully there are some other kids there to interact with your tween (fingers crossed). This would be a great time to have family, like cousins her age, to come over for a day at the pool. If not, join her in the pool and do a few obstacle courses. Remember, extroverts enjoy attention and a pool obstacle course puts your tween front and center.
Go ahead, splish, splash and have some fun!
Video games/Board games
Games can be a great way for extroverted tweens to be in charge because they are probably way better at them than their parents!
Introverted mom can sit back, relax and kick some butt because she is still in her space.
From the old school board games, like Life or Risk to new school favs on the Xbox or Playstation to trivia quiz based Jackbox Games, there are many games to choose from.
Manicures and pedicures are a bit of a splurge but can provide the atmosphere for some great mom/daughter bonding. Most girls enjoy picking out colors and having the water tickle and massage their feet. Moms enjoy this ritual for the relaxation it brings, girls should see their moms taking care of themselves.
Extroverted tweens can engage in conversation with the nail technician while introverted mom can nod and smile, all the while enjoying the rolls of the massage chair.
Craft store trips